How to meet a girl on the Internet: tips and rules

Posted on Jul 20, 2022      83

Every year, along with the number of Internet users, is growing the number of people who meet each other online. According to experts, about one in three couples in recent years are formed on the Internet. This figure is even higher for same-sex partners.

In this article, we will tell you about the tips psychologists give to those who prefer online dating.

Why people choose online dating

According to Joshua Ortega of the University of Essex, the emergence of online dating sites and apps has contributed to the development of a harmonious society. Thanks to them, men and women are no longer limited in their circle of communication by social status and geographical location. It is enough for a person to register in a dating service in order, for example, to communicate with a girl who lives thousands of kilometers away from him.

Lack of any restrictions also increases the likelihood of finding an ideal partner. Among millions of users, there is sure to be someone with whom you can start building a serious relationship. But, you should not forget about the rules of safety online, which we will talk about a little later.

Where else can you get to know someone?

Besides dating sites and applications, people also use other services, such as

  • forums;
  • social networks;
  • Chat rooms;
  • Messengers.

But they are less effective than dating sites. Unlike all the above platforms on the dating site, people register in most cases with one goal - to get acquainted. In social networks and forums, users can have other purposes and there is no certainty that a girl or a guy is ready to get acquainted.

Tips for successful online dating

Psychologist  gave some tips to help find a partner online for both a guy and a girl.

  • Fill out your profile correctly. Avoid negative statements. A potential girlfriend should understand that you are a mature and happy person. After all, hardly anyone would want to communicate with someone who is offended by the world and thinks everyone around them is to blame for their troubles. Talk about how you like to spend your time and what brings you joy.
  • Block out those who bring negativity. It’s impossible to please everyone. So if you understand that this is not your person, end communication with him. Or block him if he is too intrusive. Do not have a debate with someone you barely know. Spend that time on something really useful.
  • Get in touch within a few days. If you came to a dating site with the goal of finding a girl, refuse extensive correspondence. They can go on for months, but what’s the point? There are people who are only interested in virtual communication. You can learn a lot more about a person in a few minutes on the phone than you can in a week of correspondence.
  • Don’t make an appointment right after online dating, but after a few days. If you are trying to build a serious relationship, you need to pause. In this way, you can get rid of those who have nothing to occupy their evening. Since the purpose of dating is a serious relationship, let the partner wait for the meeting.
  • Be yourself. This is one of the most important needs in a relationship. To love means to accept each other for who we really are. Relationships, which constantly need to pretend to portray the best version of yourself, do not make people happy. Try to be real already from the beginning of correspondence. However, you shouldn’t “bear” your soul too early. Frankness grows as the relationship develops.

How to recognize deception on a dating site

Most often, scammers use a legend about a sudden illness of relatives or their own illness. They write they need money for treatment, thus forcing the victim to provide financial help.

Also, a scheme is often used where a girl or a guy wants to come and talk in person, but because of financial difficulties cannot do so. Scammers, for example, can ask to pay for travel, while promising to return the money later.

Of course, the fraudsters are not limited to these schemes of deception. It is worth remembering a few rules, from which in no case you should not deviate when dating on the Internet.

  • Never transfer money to someone you have never seen in person.
  • Don’t give your passport details or bank details.
  • Don’t click on dubious links sent to you by your contacts.
  • Don’t send your candid photos or videos to anyone.
  • Don’t give your SMS codes to anyone.

These are the minimum things you should do to avoid unpleasant situations.

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